We put together a list of things for guys to keep in mind when they are treated with blow jobs to make sure that they don’t make themselves fool and awkward.
- Exploding into Your Partner’s Mouth
Women have varied opinions when it comes to giving their guys a blow job. While some women love it and are great at it others resent it and are disgusted by it.
However, even those who love it admit that there are certain things that guys do that are not-so-great for the experience. One of those things is releasing your load into their mouth.
According to the Health Site, it is important to communicate with your partner if you are uncertain about their preferences regarding ejaculation. Failing to do so can negatively impact the overall experience. It’s essential for guys to understand that bodily fluids do not taste like an Oreo or Toblerone shake. It is crucial to be considerate and practice self-control by engaging in edging techniques. Learn to recognize when it’s necessary to delay climax, even if you have a strong desire to reach the finish line.
We all get it that some times the pleasure is too much that you don’t know what to do but screaming “I’m coming” should give her enough time to prepare and avoid choking on your cum.
Understand that women are different and they approach sex differently. She may not be a swallower and the taste of your jizz can make her throw up.
Shooting your load into her mouth without warning is not just inconsiderate it can ruin the entire evening or even your relationship.
Climaxing into her mouth is gross can leave her traumatized for the rest of her life.
- Awkward Silence
It is a turn-off to give a blow job to a silent man. The awkward silence is not only annoying it can be confusing too.
It makes her wonder if she is doing the right thing and whether you are enjoying it or not.
When you stand there in silence while the lady is down on her knees trying to suck your hardwood, the best thing you can do is to enjoy it by saying something.
Most ladies love dirty talk because it turns them on and makes them anticipate your next move. If you are not good at talking dirty then you can at least try a sexy moan or groan.
When you are in the heat of the moment basically any noise you make can do the trick, it is even better than just standing there without uttering any word.
However, you should refrain from uttering aggressive words such as ‘suck my dick.’
Such words are regarded as insulting connotations and can be demeaning to your partner.
- Thrusting Into Her Mouth
As mentioned before different women have different experiences and expectations when it comes to oral sex.
Some women will love the idea of thrusting into their mouths while most of them are utterly disgusted by it.
The act may feel so good prompting you to move your hips naturally and be all over her face.
However, it would be best if you try to contain yourself while receiving the blow job from her unless she tells you that she likes it.
According to an article published on ScoopWhoop Media, it is emphasized that forcefully thrusting into your partner’s mouth during a blow job is considered an undesirable action. The article clarifies that a blow job should not be equated to engaging in penetrative intercourse within her mouth. Therefore, it is advised to approach this act with gentleness and respect, understanding that it involves a different level of intimacy and communication.
Besides thrusting into her mouth another thing that you ought to avoid is forcing her head fiercely while she is down on you.
Trying to deep throat her is like forcing a big object down her throat which is not that pleasant.
Remember that you are having oral sex with a human being and not a sex toy. Communicate your feelings by asking her to go slowly or faster but never try to push her head ruthlessly.
- Failure to Meet a Respectable Standards of Hygiene
While this goes without saying some men will actually request a blow job without freshening up.
You are probably straight from the gym and didn’t take a shower or you have been at work walking up and down and accumulating sweat.
Your scrotum has also accumulated enough sweat that it is smelly by now. The right thing to do is to excuse yourself and go to the bathroom.
Take a few minutes to examine that everything is okay by cleaning down there using soap and water or taking a bath if you have to.
According to the Health Site, it is advisable to trim your pubic hair and ensure you freshen up before engaging in intimate activities, especially if you’ve had a long and tiring day. By doing so, you spare your partner from the discomfort of dealing with sweaty balls and unpleasant odors while performing a blow job on you. Taking these measures not only contributes to a more enjoyable experience for both partners but also shows consideration and respect towards your partner’s comfort.
Another way to ensure that you are always clean and ready for sex is by making it a habit to engage in proper pre-sex rituals.
Maintaining proper personal hygiene ensures that you are not just always clean during sex but also safe from certain urinary tract infections and STIs.
Also ensure that you are more than clean by partaking in health-conscious habits before, during, and after sex.
- Failing to Return the Favour
Blow jobs are great and probably every man on the planet acknowledges that they are like a gift from heaven. What most guys don’t know is that women love it when you go down on them too.
However, if recent studies are anything to go by women may not be receiving as much cunnilingus as the fellatio they are giving out.
A 2016 study published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality reveals that there is a huge difference between the number of women performing blow jobs on their male sex partners and the number of men performing oral sex on their female counterparts.
According to the study, a whopping 60% of women perform oral sex on their intimate partners compared to only 52% of men who do the same.
Once your lady has finished giving you a blow job the best thing you can do for her is to return the favor, otherwise, it would be selfish of you.
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- Staying put
Giving a blow job is hard. During the act, there are many things the woman has to contend with.
She may be sucking while she’s on her fours freezing on a hard cold wooden floor. This makes her cold and vulnerable.
Further, your woman may be struggling to accommodate your phallus into her mouth. This is tiring to the jaw and the tongue.
Again, you could be well endowed. The huge shlong on her mouth could sore her mouth and impact her normal breathing, while also increasing her gag reflex.
So what do you do? Try to complete this style as reasonably quickly as possible. Prolonging the enjoyment while oblivious to her detriment makes it hard for her to concentrate.
You may tell that she’s struggling when you notice her shifting position in both her body and mouth.
If you are unable to finish, suggest that she either takes a break from the action. Alternatively, you could switch to a less strenuous style that she enjoys.
- Acting coarse
A blow job can be enjoyable. But it doesn’t mean that if you are really getting entertained, you use derogatory language.
Treat your woman like a lady. Even though she likes it rough and vulgar, desists from using locker-room expletives. Some utterances are aggressive and insulting.
When the sucking is going well, just moan and use pleasing and praising words to express how you feel. Shouting abusive connotations such as suck my d***k or c**k doesn’t only sound offensive but is also degrading.
Another bad act is to grunt and make animalistic growls. Remember you are just a human having a good time with the one you love, not a hyena lurking for prey.
And when you eventually explode, you shouldn’t expect her to swallow if she’s not the type. Some women find seminal fluids disgusting. Thus if you insist on them swallowing it, you lack respect for your loved one.
- Poor genital hygiene
Cleanliness is vital for any sexual activity. And when intimacy gets close and personal as oral sex, then this virtue is paramount.
Oral sex involves a mouth receiving your member. In these close quarters, the nose is right there, smelling any whiff of odor, however slight.
Still, the level of cleanliness of your groin could determine its health status. The region is prone to bacterial infections, UTIs, and other STIs that occur due to poor hygiene and improper handling.
So expecting your sexual partner to go down on you when you haven’t bathed and changed your innerwear is not only disrespectful but also an abdication of basic health.
How can you enjoy when someone giving you pleasure is suffocating and almost vomiting due to gross situations around your genitals?
To relish cunnilingus, ensure that you are well cleaned up and trimmed before suggesting any such action. Personal hygiene elevates your sexual self-esteem.
It also makes you more desirable to your partner, who would likely enjoy this encounter and prolong oral sex.
- Demeaning gestures
Sex is sensual and mutual. Thus each party has to feel respected and also respect their boundaries.
Sex, like everything else, feels not only different with different people. It may even vary with the same people on different occasions.
Still, it’s a learning process, and creativity in this area never ends. One way of enriching your sexual experience is to discuss what you expect out of this interaction, and what’s beyond expectation.
Agreeing over such ground rules is healthy and makes the entire romp in the sack more pleasurable. After all, everyone is unique, thus expect some to be more liberal and accommodate queer words and gestures.
On the contrary, others may be extremely conservative in their expectations. Still, you have to respect their reservations.
After you agree on these guides then stick to the agreement and follow it through. If you don’t, you throw anticipation out of the window.
Maintain a certain level of decorum and avoid aggressive, chauvinistic, and insulting words and gestures.
- Demand entitlement
Whether you are a first-time acquaintance or in a long-term relationship, always value your partner. This is why you are partners in the first place; each needs the other.
So keep treating them with respect and love always, inside and outside the bedroom. Sometimes being respectful is all your intimate mate needs.
They require love and attention at all times. You may have insignificant poor habits which she can stomach. And even if she’s disgruntled, she’ll likely display her displeasure in a polite and diplomatic manner
When it comes to sex styles, you may prefer certain poses, that she wouldn’t like. You may just request that favor, which she may. or may not accept.
Besides, sex whichever style is mutual consent. There is no bigger party than the other in it.
Thus you should request your preferred style politely. When you start acting as if you are entitled to a blowjob and demand it as a right, you miss the point.
