A woman’s mind can be the easiest thing to read or the hardest. You should know about your girl’s needs and wants regarding sex. Here are five things to keep in mind while going down on a woman.
- Use different motions
Performing the cunnilingus is not just about ?poking? her clit with your tongue. Remember, your tongue is not the same as the penis; for instance, it is definitely a lot shorter.
With that said, you can’t expect to make her orgasm just with thrusting your tongue back and forth on her vagina.
This is because her O-spot is still a few inches from where your tongue is doing the act.
However, know that the clitoris is at least twice more sensitive than the penis with double the amount of nerves there.
What that means is that there are just so many other motions you can perform to make her orgasm just with your tongue.
According to The Mix, a digital charity based in the UK, stimulating the vagina solely by thrusting the tip of your tongue may provide temporary pleasure, but it is unlikely to bring her to orgasm. To enhance her arousal, it is recommended to explore other techniques such as kissing and using your tongue across various areas between her thighs. Gradually focus your attention on the clitoris, starting with gentle licking or sucking actions.
What you need to do is try out variation of oral movement from sucking, licking, thrusting, and it would be even better to use your fingers to more intensely stimulate her entire clitoris.
You will know when you are doing the right thing when you notice her moan heavily or claw the bedsheets.
- Be generous with your time
In general women take longer than the average man to get herself into the zone of sex.
If say, a guy can get super ready for sex just with a 5-minute stimulation, a lady takes at least 3 times that amount of time.
Although every woman will be different, studies have shown that on average women want their sexual partners to spend somewhere around 15-20 minutes on foreplay.
All women enjoy long and slow foreplay because it gets them into the mood.
You should know that females need their emotions to be in check to get into the right state of mind for enjoying sex.
You should also build the suspense by kissing her neck, her chest, her stomach, and finally her clitoris. This is when you get into the action of making her moan with your tongue.
You know you’re doing the right thing when she has to beg for you inside of her whilst you’re still down there.
- Listen and learn
One thing you should know when going down on her is that, this session is not suited to conversations of any kind.
I mean, come on, you are down there using your mouth and tongue to please her, meanwhile, a cunnilingus is always an intense pleasure for women.
What with at least 8,000 nerves down there (twice that of the penis!), you don’t want to expect her to talk to you to tell you how much she is enjoying your serve.
Now what that means is, if you want to know whether or not you are providing good service, listen. Listen closely to how she reacts to your touches and other advances.
Her moans will tell you everything. If she is not reacting, not sighing, not nothing, you need to change your method right away.
No reaction is probably her being bored. Don’t ask, don’t say anything, just listen and learn.
- Use your fingers, too
Use some variations in your technique when you are going down on your lady.
Although it is your mouth and tongue that are the superstars this time, don’t get thinking that you should only rely on them.
Use your fingers as well to better intensify the sensations of pleasure on her clitoris. Of course, inserting your finger to stimulate her vagina is always welcome.
As per Mind Body Green, the most satisfying experience goes beyond solely stimulating the mouth. For many women, it involves skillful fingering combined with oral sex from their partner. This combination exceeds the pleasure of each activity on its own. While cunnilingus alone is already remarkable, the addition of expert finger play creates a unique and intensified stimulation, resulting in equally intense orgasms.
If the anal thing is also your favourite, don’t hesitate either.
You can double her pleasure when you focus on licking the upper part of her clitoris, with two of your fingers deep inside.
Make a slow in-and-out motion with the fingers and continue to kiss, lick, munch (what have you) her clitoris and wait until she screams begging for your dick inside of her.
If you want to ‘torture’ her, keep this going for a couple more minutes and make a sudden shift into sex.
- Stay where you are
What this means is, stick with what you are doing if you know that your partner is enjoying your serve.
Some guys don’t think about little things like this and tend to want to change a lot of what they are doing, thinking that they want to show off some skills.
Like, ?Hey, babe, I know a lot of techniques!? But altering between your techniques too fast is actually a no-no.
You are cutting the time she needs to build tension for that elusive big-O. Of course, is she is not reacting to something you are doing, that is your signal that you need to spice things up.
But when you know from her moans and sighs that she is rightfully enjoying it down there, stay where you are.
Keep doing it until she reaches the big-O. Doing that can save you more efforts with amazing results!
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- Set sexual aura
Sex is complicated for any woman and arousal involves many body functions to harmonize. This is why you need to set the right aura to commence oral sex.
Oral sex is enjoyable and delivers more rewards to the one receiving it faster. Still, you have to maneuver through the learning curves to deliver the right punches.
During oral sex, the woman lays on her back staring into space or the ceiling, depending on what you are doing. Thus you must do it well to eliminate the blank stare.
To enhance her enjoyment, don’t assume that she’s comfortable with what you are doing. So ask her if she’s enjoying the oral manipulation of her genitalia. If she isn’t, ask her how she wants you to elevate her pleasure.
This means that you have to put them in a comfortable position. Still, you have to grab their attention with your mouth work.
Since you aren’t seeing her facial response, you need to listen to her voice and feel her body movement to gauge your performance.
In an article published on Promescent, it is highlighted that maintaining open communication during the sexual experience, particularly when exploring a new partner’s body, can be highly arousing and enjoyable for both individuals involved. This practice not only contributes to the pleasure experienced but also facilitates an understanding of her body and preferences along the way.
- Blank external interferences
Speaking about external interference is critical for fulfilling oral sex. Your body is far from her, so she gets easily distracted by external noise.
Besides, since most of her body is out of contact, it’s difficult to tell whether she’s warm or relaxed. So you begin by making her warm. Covering her and holding her is a way to relax her body and mind.
If she enjoys music or scent, you can use these to further set her in the mood. The heating and cooling appliance should also be working well not to distract her once you start manipulating her petals.
Eliminating external interference also provides you with other benefits. First, it allows you to capture and note subtle movements and sound she makes as you engage her.
Besides, the tranquility will help you discover her favorite spots and moves. She’ll enjoy minute things like your breath over her clit, your soft kisses, and even your enjoyment as you perform.
All these add to the excitement as she is free to express her feelings and even pressurize you to bring her to orgasm.
