Imagine having sex with the same person for your whole life, it might sound scary and weird, but many people are in for long-term relationships. So, we have some positions for them to keep their sex life active.
- Play sex games to keep things entertaining
People who have been in a committed relationship for a long time may have gotten so used to being with each other that not many things still remain exciting. Sex can be one of those things.
Of course, it’s not like being comfortable with each other is a bad thing, but if you can no longer enjoy wild sex like when you had just started, life simply becomes that much less entertaining, right?
So, get on to work out some sex games to keep things entertaining for the both of you.
There are many sex games which you can easily find on the Internet or even sex shops (psstt, some bookstores even sell these sex games if they are related to books, reading, and card or board games in general).
Sex games are a fun way you can challenge each other without feeling the responsibility of being daring totally on just yourself.
In a blog post by Everyday Health Group, it is suggested that engaging in sexy games can be beneficial, particularly when a relationship is already healthy but needs some added excitement. Games such as Truth or Dare, Guess What This Is, Painting for Pleasure, Picnic in Bed – Blindfolded, Role Play, Strip Poker, Sexy Chutes and Ladders, Out on the Town, and 50 Shades are mentioned as potential options.
- Roleplay sex for character exploration
So, you are in a long-term relationship and sex has gotten boring?
Hey, there’s nothing wrong with being used to each other, but that sexual spark needs to still be there if you want the love to keep going as well.
If you have become so accustomed to seeing each other that barely anything surprises nor excites you anymore, try roleplay sex.
Some people who like this type of sex endearingly call it RPS for short. You can set the rules or roles before playing.
Roleplay sex generally allows you to explore other human characteristics that may not be all you are in real life.
But that’s the fun of it because you get to experience different sexual energies without changing your partner. That’s what you need when it comes to keeping fidelity.
Plus, actual sex with many different partners just for the sake of it doesn’t sound healthy.
- Sacred sex for a spiritual union
Nowadays, if you are not a part of what people term the spiritual community, you may not have much knowledge about sacred sexuality.
However, with the increase of spiritual awareness in recent years, you may have heard of it even if only by name.
In essence, spiritual sex is when you perform a sexual act with a sacred partner that focuses on the spiritual awakening and union between the two of you.
In a blog post published on the Mind Body Green Blog, Julie Piatt highlights the concept of Sacred Sexuality as a stark contrast to the conventional sexual norms prevalent in modern society. This profound and potent energy has the potential to unlock a realm of intimacy within your relationship with your partner that was previously unknown. Engaging in sacred sexuality provides an opportunity to transcend our individual selves in a manner unparalleled by any other experience.
The concept may be new to a lot of people, but basically, this is an act of sex that focuses more on the intimate connection of two souls bonding as one in the physical realm.
With that said, qualities like respect, care, and true love are required to be elevated in order to achieve the spiritual harmony that is the goal of spiritual sex.
You can learn this with your partner and deepen your connection over time.
- Sensuality over sexuality
As you grow older, you may realise that sex that is purely based on physical satisfaction is no longer satisfying for you. Your soul begins to crave more.
So, if that really happens in your long-term relationship, do not panic and start seeing this lack of satisfaction as a sign for trouble. This does not mean that you are tired of your partner.
So, what you can do to make your sex life more entertaining is to try and make your sex focus more on sensuality itself rather than pure sexuality.
Two people who have shared a life together need to understand each other on a more emotional level and see each other in a more sensual way because sensuality makes you sensitive.
What that means is that you need to cultivate sensitivity to your partner’s emotional needs to be able to turn into a sensual lover in the bedroom.
- Mental sex rather than physical sex
When the usual routine of sex becomes too tedious, there is a new way of having sex that may just reignite that spark in your love life.
That thing may not even require you to touch each other and that thing is called mental sex. What is mental sex?
This is when you tease and flirt with each other by understanding each other’s mental realm.
You can think of this as akin to penetrating your partner but in the mind. So, you both get to know each other’s mind and how it works. This way you can learn about each other’s personality even more.
No matter how long two people have been in a relationship, there will always be something new to learn about because people are always changing.
The deepened connection and bond between the two of you will make you feel refreshed in your relationship and more alive to enjoy better sex.
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- Spontaneity and reminiscence sex
One in ten married women experiences a decline in libido. As reported by WebMD, a significant proportion of women, approximately 1 in 3 between the ages of 30 and 59, encounter episodes of what they perceive as low libido during certain stages of their lives. Additionally, WebMD highlights that approximately 1 in 10 women experience a specific condition known as hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Again, more than half of married men are unhappy with the frequency of sex in their marriage.
Familiarity breeds complacency. This is true in marriage, especially when there is poor communication.
As this becomes the norm, the connection grows weaker. More pressing issues take center stage, like bringing-up family and sorting bills.
But you can rekindle this passion. No matter how long you’ve been together, try to light up your monotony with seductive and erotic connections.
Normal is boring, so spice your marriage by bringing surprises and spontaneity into your sex lives. Every so often, break the predictable chore by suggesting a get-away sexual incursion.
Relive what you used to spend time doing, instead of getting glued to the TV. Get out for fresh air and just walk in the park and enjoy the seclusion.
Try out the long-forgotten sexual moves you used to engage in, to sustain the spark.
- Scheduled private time
Sometimes, the mutual respect you accord each other is what distances you from your long-term spouse. So you need to create some time to be close.
Physical contact is good for your mood also. An unexpected touch or a peck could ease the tension from heavy housekeeping chores. It also eases your mind from worrying about the bills.
What’s more, it gets your dopamine spiking. A simple touch may calm your nerves and remind you that it’s been a long since you touched intimately.
As your body warms up for more attention, maybe your arousal could swell, prompting you to rush to the bedroom to release the pent-up tension.When this becomes a routine, you start focusing on setting special times to rewind your desires.
It doesn’t even need to be physical.
Simple gestures like visiting cuddling, hugging, and listening to music may end up fermenting sexual desire and rekindling sexier memories that end up sparking your long-forgotten relationship.
