Premature ejaculation is among the most common sexual dysfunctions in men. They speak of rapid ejaculation, generally within a minute of entry. This can leave the man and his partner feeling shamed, frustrated and self-destructive. Fortunately, however, there is some promise in ways of preventing ejaculation before it occurs and delivering greater sexual satisfaction to both partners. In this paper, we discuss five ways to prevent ejaculation before it happens.
1. Practice relaxation techniques
Fear and stress are one of the biggest factors that contribute to early ejaculation. When a man feels anxious or stressed, his body releases a hormone called cortisol, which can interfere with how the reproductive system is supposed to work. Thus, relaxation and stress can prevent early ejaculation.
Relaxation practices include deep breathing, meditation and yoga to relieve anxiety and stress. Likewise, such methods can make a man concentrate on the here and now, without worrying about showing off or too fast.
2. Use the squeeze technique
A common way to retard ejaculation is through the squeeze technique. It involves holding the tip of the penis when a man appears to be ready to excrete. This temporarily halts the ejaculation, and enables the man to take back control of his arousal. It is performed when masturbating or with a lover.
The squeeze involves the man (or partner) pressing on the head of the penis for 10-20 seconds whenever he/she feels that they’re about to ejaculate. This must be done a few times until the man is ready to ejaculate. The squeeze can help a man control his excitement and prevent ejaculation.
3. Try the start-stop technique
The start-stop technique is a PE behavioural strategy composed of a series of exercises designed to strengthen control over ejaculation. The process involves stopping sex right before an ejaculation, then resuming after the urge to ejaculate has passed. Over time, this can be used to train the brain to defer ejaculation and maintain control.
The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that men who used the start-stop technique experienced a significant decrease in ejaculatory latency and sexual satisfaction compared with their non-user counterparts.
Men can use these instructions to apply the start-stop strategy:
* Masturbate in the beginning either alone or with a partner, taking a break from and resuming stimulation several times before you achieve ejaculation.
* Increase the duration of sex gradually until you can afford to stop.
* Once you’re familiar with the technique, incorporate it into sexual activity.
* Speak with your partner to make sure that he or she is familiar with the method and feels safe.
4. Talk to a therapist
Therapy, perhaps not a man’s first resort but a remarkablely effective way to put an end to early ejaculation, is therapeutic. One particular approach in treating PE is the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT for short. The philosophy behind this approach to treatment is to facilitate the changes in unhealthy thought and behaviour that will cause one to suffer this disorder.
The Role of CBT
CBT teaches men how to recognise and dispel distortions in negative beliefs about sexual performance (for example, feelings of inferiority or shame). Higher anxiety compounds the problem. It’s helpful to have these thoughts worked through with a professional therapist to create coping strategies that allow for a healthier view of intimacy.
Another element that can be of value in CBT is learning to communicate better together. To be sure, free dialogue is a vital aspect of sex, and therapy might teach people how to better communicate their own feelings and concerns.
Unraveling Deep-seated Issues
These are sometimes the result of a deep psychological issue such as performance anxiety, a love triangle, or trauma. In this instance, the therapist can help explore these issues in the name of sexual wellness. The post-treatment outcomes from fixing these underlying causes will not only be beneficial for PE, but will also improve overall mental health and interpersonal relationships.
5. Use desensitizing products
Other effective therapies for early ejaculation include desensitizing agents. They are ointments, creams, sprays – even condoms, if you like – that contain, for the most part, some form of anaesthetic such as lidocaine or prilocaine. They mostly act to temporarily dim the sensitivity of the penile surface, increasing ejaculatory latency.
Evidence of Effectiveness
For example, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, “men with lidocaine-prilocaine cream exhibited significantly greater control over ejaculation than men with a placebo”. It can, therefore, be an extremely valuable technique for those who want to stay longer without displaying performance anxiety.
Usage Guidelines
It is also very important to follow directions when applying these desensitizing drugs. Consumption would in fact lead to loss of sensitivity over time, possibly decreasing the sexual pleasure of either partner. More importantly, a user needs to wash before having sex to keep his partner from feeling numb, and thus from feeling unsatisfied with sexual intercourse.
Men do not all respond very well to condoms, skin rash or altered feeling could prevent them from being used, so a man needs to be very careful about his body, and if he notices something is wrong a doctor would be a great option.
Conclusion:
Inadequate ejaculation is one of the most common and unwelcome concerns among men. But it can be managed, and even avoided, given the right techniques and guidance. Any physical or psychological issue must be addressed, and stress and anxiety must be drained by specific forms of relaxation. The squeeze and start-stop method can show a man how to halt an orgasm by tempering adrenaline. If these aren’t working, talking to a therapist or desensitising products might be more useful. Premature ejaculation is easily avoided with patience and perseverance, thus making the sexual encounter pleasurable for both of them.
