Men’s penis size has long been a topic of curiosity and debate. It is never disguised as manliness or manhood, and many men never sacrifice their smaller-than-average size. These days it is being recognised that being big on the penis has disadvantages. In this essay, we will explore the potential downsides of having an over-sized penis, both physical and mental.
Historically, interest in the size of the penis has its roots in prehistoric cultures, where the larger penis was associated with strength, femininity and manhood. In ancient Greece, for instance, idols and heroes frequently wore full genitals as a marker of their power. In ancient Egypt, for example, pharaohs were frequently adorned with huge penises to reflect fertility and authority.
There have always been major contributors to the notion that an enormous penis is desirable. Pornography, for instance, has helped to fuel the myth that the penis should be as big as possible. For mainstream porn, male actors are picked because their penises are larger than normal and the viewer is under the impression that this is the way it is. This can leave men who fall short of these standards with unattainable expectations and feelings of insecurity.
In addition to porn, celebrity culture has been used to reinforce the perception that the bigger the penis, the better. Male porn stars, athletes and musicians are lauded for their looks, from their genitals to their size. This can further feed into the notion that having a huge penis is a marker of accomplishment and attractiveness.
Here are a few points that I think should be clarified regarding the concept of an extra-large penis. Most of the time, an extra-large penis is defined as having a length of over 5.5 inches when standing upright. This might sound like a very small one, but the average penis is around 5 inches. So an extra-large penis is more than average, resulting in an extremely large variation in both appearance and function.
Even the extra-large penis can sometimes result from an abnormally large penis (a condition called macrophallus). It is physically and psychologically painful, and the patient may need medical attention and assistance.
Downsides
Perhaps the most obvious negative aspect of an excessively large penis is its bodily discomfort. The extra weight and length of the penis can stress the pelvic muscles and joints, creating pain and discomfort. This can be particularly awkward when you’re having sex with them because the super-height renders certain poses awkward or impossible. That creates frustration and discontent in both partners.
Furthermore, a large penis can also increase the likelihood of harm during sex. The squeeze of a large penis can tear or bruise vaginal or anal tissue, causing discomfort and infection. The penis’s size, at times in extreme cases, may even result in a phenomenon known as penile fracture, where the penis actually snaps back through the force of thrusting. This can be extremely painful and may require repair surgery.
Further, the broader penis can also produce a condition called Peyronie’s disease in which scar tissue grows into the penis and makes it slant or curl during an erection. This can irritate the sex and even lead to complications in sexual intercourse that may need to be treated.
In addition to the physical pain and damage it causes, an abnormally large penis can also have a psychological impact on both the man and his lover. For the man, having a super-sized penis might cause insecurity and stress. He may fret about complying with expectations of how a ‘real man’ should appear and perform in bed. This drive to do well can also create performance anxiety, which affects the ability to have or maintain an erection.
A second downside to an extra-large penis is an increased incidence of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). The longer penis penetrates the vagina, allowing STIs to easily enter it. This is especially the case when utilizing condoms, which may not reach the entire length of the penis. Men with larger penises might also find it more difficult to place a condom on and be at risk of it breaking or falling off during sex.
Psychological effects
However, the partner might also feel the psychological impact of having a penis that is too large. She might be scared or overwhelmed by the size, and doubt whether she can meet her partner’s demands. This can also create a lack of communication and a strain on the relationship as the partner may be uncomfortable talking about these issues.
Furthermore, having a larger penis can influence a man’s self-perception and self-worth. While we all love bigger penises from men, the pressure to compare and apologise is overblown. This can make you feel inadequate and unsatisfied with your own body and thereby feel shame and low self-esteem.
Occasionally, men with an over-large penis develop what is known as ‘penis dysmorphic disorder’. It’s a form of body dysmorphic disorder in which a patient becomes obsessed with how big and fat his penis is. They might constantly look at their friends, feel embarrassed and try any risky means to get their penis bigger, like surgery or unhealthy pills. It can have catastrophic physical and psychological effects, and may need therapy to treat.
As well as physical and mental limitations, there are practical implications associated with an oversized penis. For instance, it can be difficult to obtain condoms that fit comfortably and securely. This can increase your chances of breaking or falling off your condom and resulting in unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted infection. It can also be a challenge to acquire clothes that are comfortable, and do not show off the size of the penis, which some men find embarrassing or uncomfortable.
And third, having a big penis is not only costly. Bigger men may struggle to find and afford decent-fitting condoms. This makes it more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies. They may also need to invest in specialised clothes and underwear to fit their size, which further complicates the cost.
Conclusion:
A big penis is a desirable feature, so why shouldn’t it be? It is a profoundly uncomfortable, possibly traumatising, and psychologically damaging experience for both partners. Two people in a relationship need to be able to talk freely about expectations and limits. More importantly, happiness and enjoyment should take priority over size. It is the sexual experience, not the penis size, that counts most.
