Most long-term relationships tend to lose their luster after some time. Some could be immediately after the honeymoon duration, while others decades later. Whether the case, you shouldn’t let this ugly scenario into your marital relationship. This is because it tends to get worse. You need to become innovative in the bedroom to spice up normalcy. But how do you do this? Adding these five tantric principles to inject more spice into your bedroom life.
- Indulge in a sensual self-massage
The key to tantra is an awareness of the body rather than just the act of sex itself. With that said, it is a good idea to begin your tantra learning with a full-body self-massage.
Engaging in this erotic solo play can help you to learn about your own turn-ons which you can then relay to your partner. It is important to know your erogenous zones more than your partner.
Use some nice body oil that incorporates aphrodisiac essential oils to awaken your senses even further.
Lavender, patchouli, rose geranium and orange blossom are a few good examples of essential oils that are often used as aphrodisiacs.
If you like the idea, you can even do this self-massage in front of your partner as they watch and wait for their turn to touch you.
The suspense of waiting is sure to bring their libido levels through the roof.
- Increase your awareness through meditation
Since tantra focuses more on the senses to bring up an elevation of sexual awareness, meditation is a significant part of the tantric principles.
The key to meditation in tantric practices is enlightenment–this leads you to a sense of liberation.
The reason meditation is important in tantra is so you can release stress and tension that have been piling up in your emotional and mental bodies.
When you release them through meditation, you feel lighter and freer to connect soul to soul with your partner.
At the same time, your senses and awareness become heightened that your body also responds better to sensuality and other sexual stimulations.
Meditation, as discussed by Mind Body Green, is a powerful tool for reducing stress. It has the potential to positively impact sexual desire and performance by reducing cortisol and adrenaline levels. By mitigating the effects of these stress hormones, meditation creates an environment conducive to more satisfying and fulfilling intimate experiences.
One great meditation exercise to do daily is breathing meditation. Essentially, all you do is focus on deep and relaxed breathing for some 10-30 minutes–longer if you can.
When you find your mind wanders, just concentrate back on your breathing.
- Masturbation as a way to know your body more
Similar to a full-body self-massage, masturbation is an integral part of the learning process of tantric practice.
However, in tantra, masturbation should not be thought of as a means to simply achieve orgasm; this is not the main focus of tantra.
Like previously mentioned, tantra is essentially a practice to bring your closer to spiritual liberation or enlightenment, so masturbation here should not be seen as a sinful or dirty act.
At its core, pleasing yourself in a solo act has the purpose of increasing your awareness of the mechanism of your body; this includes how your body reacts and responds to sexual stimulation.
Masturbation, as discussed in a Healthline blog article, is a natural and safe way for individuals to explore their bodies, experience pleasure, and release sexual tension. It promotes self-awareness, empowerment, and a deeper understanding of one’s own desires. Masturbation serves as a valuable avenue for personal pleasure, facilitating a journey of self-discovery and fulfillment. It is an effective means of relieving both physical and emotional tension.
More than anyone else, you should know your body the best, and if you succeed in this, you will be able to lead or guide your partner to touch you in the places you know as your ultimate turn-ons.
- Cuddle more to create a stronger bond
In tantra practices, sex is not only about the satisfaction of one’s genital, but it is also a sacred spiritual union between lovers.
The reason many people say that tantric sex elevates their sexual experience is that they also feel a stronger bond with their partner.
This is an experience you can never understand if your only source of sexual knowledge is porn.
Tantra is very spiritual and its primary focus is the well-being of the practitioner, and this includes the spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being of the said person.
Sex is just a small but fun and healthy part of taking care of the balance of your mind, body, and spirit.
With that said, you could try to bond more with your partner through the act of cuddling.
Sex isn’t the only intimate thing in a relationship, cuddling and just breathing together makes you understand each other’s soul.
- Explore your spirituality on a larger scale
Tantric principles seek to balance the spiritual with the practical. As a result of that, the practitioners of tantra can more easily find enjoyment and satisfaction in their day-to-day lives.
This also translates into what they can experience in terms of sexuality.
For you and your partner to truly benefit from the practices of tantra, you need to be open and willing to explore your spirituality beyond what it can do to improve your sex life.
It would greatly benefit the two of you if you do this exploration together as a means of deepening your sense of togetherness and also as a means to get to know each other on a much deeper level.
The more you vibe with your partner the stronger your bond becomes and sex becomes something divine for the two of you that words are no longer needed.
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- Eye gazing
One of the best ways to enhance sexual aura through tantric is eye gaze. Locking eyes has been known to create a deeper connection.
In the tantric mantra, gazing takes this feeling a tad further. But there is a specific technique to it.
It evolves from the transfiguration principle. This principle utilizes vision and appreciates natural beauty. In this case, the eye is the door to the soul and so, you use this mantra to focus on the inner beauty of your partner.
Thus eye gazing transcends above the physical beauty of your partner to seek the bliss locked inside them.
You apply this principle by locking your eyes on their left eye and them doing the same to you. You should avoid blinking during the gaze.
Prolonged eye contact heats things in your mind and body. It creates a sexual resurgence during oral sex or foreplay.
Tantric eye gazing, as emphasized by the Sexual Health Alliance, has the potential to boost trust, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. Maintaining eye contact is commonly linked to trust, while avoiding eye contact can suggest deceit. By actively practicing tantric eye gazing, individuals can cultivate trust, deepen intimacy, and ultimately experience heightened sexual fulfillment.
Eye gazing is particularly effective during sex as it increases arousal and strengthens erection.
- Simultaneous breathing
This is yet another trick that tantric sex applies generously. Breathing is the way to let passion flow all over your body.
During sex, your two bodies merge into one with a single soul. Being keen and applying mindfulness help you to pick subtle cues from your partner.
One of the basic observations is their breathing rate. You can take time to set your breathing to match and merge with theirs.
This breathing is slow and deep. You inhale through your nose and exhale via your mouth. Besides providing extra oxygen to the lungs, it calms the heartbeat also.
Synchronized breathing makes it possible to merge your souls into one, aligning your nervous system. This state enables you not only to set your heartbeat in synch but also your respiration process.
Getting this right takes a lot of practice and energy. But you gradually tune it, especially if you practice it with your partner routinely.
