How to Have an Open Relationship – Introduction
Same-sex partners are confronted with new challenges and opportunities in contemporary relationships. While attitudes and expectations have changed significantly, partners must continue to build their relationship and lead an exemplary sexual life. In this article, we’ll discuss a fun, and easy way to bond with same-sex couples: “The Comparison Game”. This collaborative exercise not only improves communication, it also teaches couples to acknowledge their differences and similarities for a more productive relationship.
Understanding “The Comparison Game”
“The Comparison Game” is a play-based technique to build rapport between lovers by discussing various aspects of the relationship, especially their sexual life. The game is based on the following rules:
Preparation: Setting the Stage for Open Dialogue
Creating a space where they can openly speak is the first step to playing “The Comparison Game”. You want to choose somewhere quiet and peaceful where nobody disturbs you. Here couples can open up and express themselves without fear of being judged or distracted. Both partners should be willing to approach this exercise with a state of curiosity and openness, knowing that vulnerability is the strength of any relationship.
Discussion: Unpacking Thoughts and Feelings
After a stage is prepared, the game gets underway. Every partner turns over their sexual thoughts, emotions and experiences. This might cover everything from favourite sex roles, to turn-ons, and fantasy. The secret is to share openly and listen in a climate of trust and empathy.
This section of the game enables lovers to communicate unspoken wishes that reveal themselves in ways that reinforce the relationship. Talking non-aggressively about sexual preferences not only promotes sexual satisfaction but emotional sex and allows for a place where both partners feel heard and accepted.
Comparison: Finding Common Ground
Once they’ve expressed their own perspectives, comparison follows. Couples recognise common interests, wants and little differences. This process can be helpful because it helps couples recognise the uniqueness of their relationship.
Instead of using differences as reasons for disagreement, partners should embrace them as means for exploring. For instance, if one partner loves surprise and the other enjoys routine activities, then they can work through these differences by scheduling surprise date nights or trying new things with an adventurous bent.
This comparison encourages an awareness of each partner’s uniqueness, and thereby strengthens the mutual affinity that makes the relationship unique. It emphasizes that each member contributes something to the partnership that enhances the relationship.
Exploration: Expanding the Horizons of Intimacy
Now, after all this discussion and comparison, it’s time to experiment. Armed with more insight into each other’s desires, lovers are compelled to work on their sexual relationship together. Couples can incorporate different types of techniques, games and fantasies into the relationship based on the common interests and new perspectives discovered during the earlier stages.
That might involve trying new sexual roles, adding role-play, or tackling shared fantasy ideas that come up during conversation. It’s all part of the fun of this process; both partners are cooperating to elevate their sexual experience and create a better, more enjoyable sexual relationship.
And the exploration need not stop in the bedroom. Couples may even see the lessons they’ve learned during “The Comparison Game” in other areas of their relationship that lead to increased communication, trust and friendship in their everyday lives.
The Benefits of “The Comparison Game” for Same-Sex Couples
Enhanced Communication
The foundation of any healthy relationship is open communication. “The Comparison Game” forces couples to talk about what they are thinking, feeling and wanting, paving the way for better communication. This exercise encourages you to speak up in an attempt to build a culture of respect. By expressing their opinions, couples make sense not just of themselves, but also of their partner’s position. The more you communicate, the stronger and more tenacious the relationship can be, which means couples can handle things together and become emotionally connected.
Celebrating Differences
Same-sex couples tend to bring diverse experiences, backgrounds and opinions to their relationships. Unlike heterosexual relationships, which may share some societal stories, queer couples may have their own challenges and pleasures. The Comparison Game gives partners the space to appreciate and respect these differences. By sharing their stories, partners can benefit from each other’s experiences, encourage mutual respect and appreciate the unique personalities that each brings to the relationship. This sense of difference serves to cement the idea that both spouses are equal but also utterly different in their stories.
Fostering Intimacy
Intimacy is one of the most important factors in any relationship that drives attachment and passion. “The Comparison Game” provides a place for gay couples to openly discuss a wide range of topics related to their sex life, needs, and desires. By talking openly about these things, lovers can rekindle the fire that made their love so special in the first place. It’s often in these dialogues that we begin to understand one another and begin to find ways to marry sex with emotion. This fulfilled promise of intimacy not only rekindles sexual satisfaction, it also intensifies emotional proximity, strengthening the relationships between them.
Encouraging Growth
There’s no single fixed relationship and couples need to adapt together in order to get along. “The Comparison Game” prompts couples to question their preconceived ideas about each other and their relationship. Comparing and contrasting these experiences, couples are encouraged to step outside of their comfort zone and explore unknown terrain in hopes of finding something they can work on together. Couples might learn something new in the process, or have new ideas or encounters that strengthen their connection. It helps to not only increase their sexual relationship but also helps each partner learn more about what he or she wants from the other person and ultimately, create a stronger, happier relationship.
Conclusion: How to Have an Open Relationship
Trying to achieve happiness and fulfilment requires same-sex couples to grapple with multiple demands from society, preferences and personal struggles. “The Comparison Game” provides a fun and exciting way to bond, talk openly, embrace differences, experience intimacy and build self-esteem. With this playful activity, gay couples can strengthen their relationship, increase their sexual experience, and develop a loving, committed relationship.
