How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Be Sexually Degraded – Introduction
Speaking out about sexual desire is a daunting undertaking, especially in relation to supposedly taboo subjects, such as sexual denigration. But communication is fundamental in all close relationships, and your needs must be realised in order for you both to be fulfilled and understood. If you are keen on delving into the realm of sexual abuse, this article teaches you how to do that with your partner.
1. Understand Your Desire
When you approach your partner, consider what sexual degradation means to you. Consider the following questions:
What words or actions ring true for you?
What do you think about sexual degradation?
What do you suppose led to this desire?
The more you know about your feelings and desires, the better you can express them to your partner. It also can stave off confusion and make the exchange feel specific rather than ad hoc.
2. Choose the Right Time and Place
A conversation flows from one moment to another, both based on time and space. Try to choose a neutral, private, relaxed environment where you are both at ease. Don’t bring up sensitive subjects when things are stressful or hectic – you risk confusion or defensiveness.
3. Communicate Openly and Honestly
Once you are confident enough to speak to your partner, be open about the topic. Here’s a suggested framework for the conversation:
Start with Affirmation
It works well to build up a good atmosphere before you move on to the meat of your conversation, and it’s good to show that you love and are committed. It can reduce your partner’s anxiety about the discussion. You could say, “I just want you to know how much I value you and the time we had. You are very dear to me, and I appreciate our relationship.” If you begin with promises of reassurance, you provide room for communication and prove that you aren’t upset with the communication you want.
Express Your Feelings
Once the building blocks of affirmation are in place, go ahead and share your feelings. Using “I” statements is very helpful because they let you share your opinion without accusing or coercing. For example, “I’ve been thinking about our sex life and I want to start doing something together.” This reframes your view and reveals that you are not judging your partner or your relationship but imagining something you can both embark on together.
Introduce the Concept
Now that you have sat down and voiced your feelings, it’s time to gently bring in the topic you would like to speak about. If you’re going to study sexual degradation or power dynamics, start by explaining yourself. We might be wise to make it clear that this hankering does not reflect a sense of failure or inferiority but rather a mutual search for boundaries and identities.
I can hear you thinking, “I’ve been reading and thinking about sexual degradation, and I like it. I see it as a playful play on power. I don’t mean to imply that this is something bad for us, but rather, that it may be something that will help our relationship in the way that it lets us explore new ways of intimate intimacy with one another.
4. Open Up Communication
Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Any intimate topic demands a comfortable space in which your partner is at liberty to voice their opinion and questions. Open up a dialogue about what you want to talk about, what you are thinking, just do it in a way that makes them want to hear you talk, not press them.
When you’re done sharing, invite your partner to do the same. They might have concerns, fears or even questions about sexual degradation. Pay close attention to how they react and tell them that their comfort and agreement is just as valuable as yours. It’s going to be a lengthy conversation, and you need to allow them time to process and absorb what you have said.
5. Discuss Boundaries and Consent
Once the subject is opened and one’s partner is in a moderate position, it’s critical to discuss limits and consent as deeply as you can. It is essential to keep partners comfortable and safe as they pursue their wants.
Then define what aspects of degeneration you’re comfortable with and have him explain his own limits as well. It’s about the two of you expressing an honest conversation about what’s OK and what’s not. You create credibility in a situation where everyone can make an opinion about what’s going on just fine. Recall consent is a continuous thing; checking in on each other keeps the dialog going and gives you mutual insight into each other.
6. Start Slow and Check-In Regularly
When both couples choose to explore the world of sexual degeneration, it pays to be modest. It might be easiest to begin by getting a bit more explicit about fantasies, or trying some minor levels of humiliation that feel good for you both. In this way, you aren’t pushing each other to leap into something that might not work out.
But what matters the most is that you check in often throughout this process. Try and make a point to take a break and speak honestly during the session like, “How do you feel? or “Is this still ok with you?” It will provide a good sense of comfort that will help ensure that this experience will be great since you’ll have been in a position to adapt and make it a positive experience.
7. Be Prepared for Different Outcomes
And at last, go into this conversation as open as you can be, ready for whatever happens to result. This will take some time for your partner to process, and he might react between excitement and discomfort. Remember: it’s OK if someone responds differently to strange sex interests.
Just be patient and don’t ask them to do something they don’t like, even if it is your preference. Provide the conditions for him or her to freely confess to you what makes them antsy or frustrated. If they cannot accept the concept of sexual degradation, these choices need to be respected. Love is never conceived of in isolation but through mutual respect and trust, and whose voyage must be a consolation to both.
Conclusion: How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Be Sexually Degraded
Sharing that desire for sexual degradation is a very vulnerable step, but it opens up a whole world of intimacy and connection in your relationship. When you approach the subject respectfully and with care, you give yourself permission to share expanded learning with your partner. Keep in mind that trust and communication are the basis of every good relationship, so take your time and make sure you both are comfortable along the way.
