It’s Official: No One Has Sex on Mondays – Introduction
In an amusing finding that will no doubt get laughs and a few approving nods, a recent study has found that Mondays are the least sexually desirable day of the week. It may have been obvious to anyone who had witnessed it, but there is observable evidence to support the seeming universality of this observation. So, what’s behind this phenomenon? Let’s explore why Mondays are so dreadfully low on the love scale.
The Monday Blues
Each week begins in the same fashion: the weekend is behind us, the demands of the working week loom ahead. Most of us start a new week with intense tension and anxiety as we switch from play to deadlines and conferences. This “Monday Blues” cycle drains energy and excitement and has little room for romance.
With the burdens of work commitments, as well as the weekend nagging at you, most of us just aren’t feeling it after a long, crappy day. This feeling is certainly reflected in pop culture, where ‘Monday’ is an icon of the fight to get back into the daily grind.
Psychological Factors
Psychological research shows mood and disposition to be a key player in shaping sexual desire. For instance, if you’ve just enjoyed a weekend of pampering and playtime with someone you care about, or just simply hanging out among friends, or just a good old-fashioned snooze, being thrust suddenly into work mode feels very jarring. Fear and insecurity about upcoming work obligations quickly eclipse any romantic predispositions.
In couples’ schedules, Mondays begin to involve “catching up” on chores, future plans or sifting through logistics. This focus tends to shove romance and spontaneity out the door, and a feeling of connection that seems second to duty takes over.
Weekend Aftermath
The weekend doesn’t forget the weekend, where you might find yourself in a position of both boredom and exhilaration. Social gatherings, late nights, and household chores can leave individuals or couples post-weekend deflated. A depleted mood on the weekend can mean that on Mondays, you just want to go to sleep, not indulge in some romantic activities.
A Cultural Shift
From a cultural perspective, our engagement with the week and the weekend has changed. While weekends were traditionally the time to relax and couples benefited from this, Mondays tend to be considered a strict return to work and responsibilities. That cultural conditioning inclines us away from emotional and physical contact at the start of the week.
Solutions for Spicing Up Mondays
Mondays might not be the preferred day of sex, according to the statistics, but when we take action, it can change the story. Couples looking to avoid the Monday blues should try these techniques:
1. Plan Ahead
One of the most easy but most effective ways to amplify sex on a lazy Monday is simply by anticipating it. In far too many situations, fatigue at the start of the week and tumult from day-to-day obligations can swamp relationships. As couples set aside intentional time for one another, they can thus anticipate a peak moment in their day.
This could come in the way of setting: scheduling a dinner out, cooking a favourite dish together, or simply setting aside a block of time without distractions. This anticipation of an intimate night is what might add excitement to a normally dull Monday.
Turn out the lights, burn a few candles and compile the list of love songs. Each of these aspects envelops you in an aura that facilitates attachment and prepares the soul for the simple boat of sexuality.
2. Reinventing Monday Night
By adding some distinct rituals to the couple’s week, any given day of the week (and especially a Monday) can be rearranged in amazing ways. ‘Monday Night Date’ could be the right way to start your spark and anchor you emotionally. This gives them something more concrete to look forward to, and in turn gives substance to the otherwise routine Monday.
Whether it is a movie night with the popcorn and blankets all covered, game night with tons of laughter, or cooking new recipes, such holy nights can turn Monday into Monday. In this way, Monday won’t seem like a barrier to connectiveness and creative expression; the day couples come into contact and get to know each other’s weirdness and preferences in a super-friendly environment.
3. Relaxation Techniques
As Mondays mark the start of the new week, pressure is higher, and therefore it is a terrible time for relationships to be shared emotionally and sexually. Stress and anxiety relief through relaxation exercises would put couples on the right side of Monday and could perhaps put them both in a more libido-positive frame of mind.
The arts of mindfulness – meditation and yoga – have much to offer us in emotional regulation and connection. Take just a few minutes out of this crowded Monday to breathe, stretch or even just go on a quick meditation and see how much better you’ll feel. This sort of activity will provide you with the chance to reconnect with yourself and, most importantly, each other.
Being in the zone makes room for more emotional closeness that is crucial in any relationship. You give yourself the space to be close to other people physically and emotionally when you engage yourself in relaxation.
Conclusion: It’s Official: No One Has Sex on Mondays
Although the research essentially states “no one has sex on Mondays,” it does leave room for sharing intimacy, routines and everyday stressors. Once couples know the causes of this trend, they can find a way to spark back up even at the beginning of the week. And, really, love and affection do not have to be confined to weekends. As one relationship guru puts it, “Every day is a connection day — we just need to choose to open up to it.” So, who wants to shake up the Monday narrative?
