Are you looking for ways to make your sex life more fun, happening, and wild? You have come to the right place because we have five facts and secrets about a sexual encounter that make sex more pleasurable.
- First things first, make safety your top priority
Being out and about in a big city where you can easily meet all kinds of people is truly amazing and you can have many sexual escapades for you to learn about life.
Maybe you like living that Sex and the City lifestyle and you tend to go on a serial dating, hey, no shame. People have different priorities in life. But do you know a good piece of advice?
Here, listen closely, you never quite know what kind of person you’ve just encountered, and with that, you most probably won’t know their sexual or medical history.
Changing sexual partners too often is not a good thing for this very specific reason.
According to the data published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the reported cases of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) in the United States witnessed a notable increase by the end of 2020, surpassing the reported cases in 2019. Particularly concerning were the reported cases of gonorrhea, syphilis, and congenital syphilis, which exceeded the levels recorded in 2019.
You don’t know if the new person you have just encountered would have any weird STDs or STIs, so always bring your own condom for safety and make your new encounter wear it at any cost.
- Just enjoy yourself and don’t think too much about pleasing the other party
If it is a new encounter and you have no plan whatsoever on getting to know this new person on a more personal level, it is absolutely acceptable to think of just your own pleasure.
We aren’t suggesting you be a lazy bum and not do anything for the other person, but it would probably do you better to know that you don’t have to think too much and try to please the person you have just met.
The point is just to enjoy each other’s company and sexual offers and by the time the sun rises, you will already be saying good-bye anyway.
So, be polite, have good manners, be sexy and be a tease, but put your own pleasure as the top priority and just enjoy what you both can have at the present moment.
- If you don’t like the person, just imagine doing it with a celebrity you like
We can’t guarantee that the people we casually have sex with are always to our liking; the world is just too complex for that.
So, if you somehow get stuck in a situation where you can’t escape an icky situation in which you actually really, really want to have sex but the only available person isn’t exactly what you are looking for, just use a little bit of your imagination.
Honestly, we think you should never lower your standards and that you would be better off having sex with someone “anyone” you truly, truly like because the sex will be so much better that way, anyway.
But if you really must and you really think you are willing to compromise and there is no other person that’s good enough, then you surely can use your imagination to deliver you to the embrace of a hot celebrity you really, really fancy.
According to an American telehealth company called Health Company, an overwhelming majority of men have expressed that they engage in fantasies during sexual activity with a partner. In a specific study, 84% of participants openly admitted to having fantasies while being sexually active. It is a common question for many individuals to ponder whether it is normal to fantasize about someone other than their partner during intimate moments. It is important to note that such fantasies are completely normal, and there is nothing inherently wrong with having them. In fact, a comprehensive review study conducted by Birnbaum in 2019 revealed that various forms of fantasizing can actually be beneficial for a relationship.
- Tease, tease, and tease
A sexual encounter is when you can be not so yourself or it could be the other way around. At any rate, you can be a tease to a tee if you want to try that.
Whether being a tease is actually your thing which you don’t usually get a chance for exhibiting or if that’s something you have always wanted to try to be.
A casual sexual encounter lets you explore other characteristics or expand your existing persona.
At any rate, by the end of the day you want to be having sex with this new person you have just encountered, so be at your best sexual behaviour, and perform in mental foreplay long before the actual physical foreplay even begins.
In order for you to not be a cheap tease that chases quality men away, you should take the time to properly study the art of seduction first.
- Most of the time, it’s chemical, but pay attention to your conscience, too
When you are meeting new people and suddenly there is one person whom you are highly attracted to in a sexual way, believe us that most of the time it is the chemical reactions in your body noticing something that the other person has which you crave.
You can also look at this situation from an astrological perspective in which certain traits and qualities in your birth chart are highly drawn to the other person’s natal star qualities.
Be that as it may and no matter how well you can justify your attraction towards the new person through a scientific and esoteric perspective, you need to still use your conscience.
As per a Well+Good Blog article, experiencing difficulties in communicating effectively and making sound judgments when consumed by intense sexual arousal is commonly known as “sex brain.” It is advised to steer clear of circumstances that enable your sex brain to override rational thinking. For instance, if you no longer desire to engage in sexual activities with a friend-with-benefits, it might be wise to avoid spending time with them if you anticipate that such encounters are likely to occur.
No matter how attracted you are to the new person, if your gut tells you there will be trouble with the other party, you’d best leave that situation behind and not get caught in an icky sexual situation.
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- Sex guards against cancer
Many people engage in sex for procreation and pleasure. But when relationships turn long-term, they are likely to downgrade their sexual activities significantly.
Thus it’s not uncommon to see couples in their fifties just living like strangers in their homes. With children all grown and home lonely, the power of initial attraction fades.
So they engage in less sex. This way, some feel that since there is no longer sex to keep them close, they recoil into their small cocoons.
But this is when the coupe should emphasize intimacy and sex. After all, they now have all the time and are under no pressure to provide for the children.
Why? Sex during the middle ages helps men avoid the onset of prostate cancer. A BJU International publication states that men having sex and masturbating are less prone to this form of cancer.
Thus keep your prostate healthy and encourage your significant other to this preventive action.
- Frequent sex improves fertility
You should engage in frequent sex, not just because you have started a new relationship, but because it’s healthy. The reason why old relationships fade is because of neglecting sex.
Yet sex plays a vital role in any union. Random but fulfilling sex helps to iron off stress by releasing the feel-good enzymes called oxytocin.
The secretion helps to calm you and even lower your blood pressure. The improved heart rate improves your sexual performance which then resuscitates the desire for more sex.
A study published in the Biological Perspective journal confirms this scenario. The researchers assess the stress levels of participants after undertaking a complicated math quiz.
It found that those who had vaginal intercourse before the exam had the lowest stress markers, while those that didn’t have any sex registered the highest.
Still, those who masturbated faired well followed by the group who had some form of sexual arousal.
