Many men and women are afraid or worried about their poor performance in bed, which ultimately leads to a dry spell period. We enlist five common tips that will help you conquer it.
- Masturbate to know your own turn-ons and turn-offs
People go through ups and downs in life and in the same way our sex drives also go through highs and lows.
First, you need to understand that it is perfectly normal to go through a period of sexual dry spell.
Most people will experience this dry season at certain points in their lives.
Of course, as each person is different, there are also many reasons as to why someone could experience a sexual dry spell.
However, in most cases, it is highly probable that you are just either bored or have been disappointed a lot in your sexual escapades.
In such a case, you may want to relearn your turn-ons and turn-offs by pleasing yourself sexually in your own personal ways.
Masturbation is a good place to start so that you learn again how to connect to your body and start the engine yourself more effectively.
- Skip the porn and watch good movies that have legendary erotic scenes
Whatever is the case for your sexual dry spell, just don’t go to porn to try and start your engine.
Just? don’t. Porn is a low-quality example of sex even at its best and that is not what you want to waste your time and energy on trying to restart your engine.
Man Matters highlights that the consumption of pornography can lead to a desensitization towards others’ pleasure, which in turn can have adverse effects on romantic relationships, friendships, and broader social connections. Furthermore, certain pornographic content frequently disregards the crucial principles of consent and safe sexual practices, thereby undermining healthy and respectful sexual encounters.
With that said, instead of scrolling through porn images, you should just enjoy good movies that are known to have amazing sex scenes.
Movies are actually the best when it comes to providing sex scenes that are closer to reality in which you don’t find much of the idea of women being treated as a simple piece of meat.
If you don’t know some good movies that have legendary erotic scenes, you could simply go to Google and make a ‘top movies with the best sex scenes? kind of search.
- Make time and space for your erotic me time and just enjoy
Having the exquisite experience of going through a sexual dry spell is no fun, but did you know that it could indicate that you are just bored with having sex with people who constantly fall below your expectations?
You may want to consider that this could be the case for you.
And so, if you think this is exactly what has been plaguing your psyche for a while, it is time that you reinvested your time and effort into the art of solo play.
Yup, you can just please yourself. Since it’s the dry season after all, it may not be as easy as it sounds and you may not even have the mood for it to begin with.
But keep giving it a try and invest more in making yourself feel pretty and sexy in your own terms.
Do it for yourself and spend a “quality” time with just you and enjoy it. You deserve to be treated like a queen by even yourself.
- Actually, watch what you are eating
Although for many people the sexual dry spell could be rooted in the psyche (most of the time it is boredom), you should also consider the fact that hormones play a great role in a person’s sex drive.
You may actually have been eating a lot of stuff that is simply not good for your health.
Foods that are high in grease are typically bad for your blood circulation and this can absolutely decrease sexual arousal.
Meanwhile, you may also be underfeeding your brain with nutritious foods that should make it produce the right hormones for boosting sex drive.
In a study highlighted by Medical News Today, researchers investigating the Mediterranean Diet, which shares similarities with the American Heart Association’s recommendations, discovered that individuals with metabolic syndrome who adhered to this diet experienced reduced instances of erectile dysfunction (ED). Additionally, numerous foods commonly found in a heart-healthy diet, including avocados, asparagus, nuts, seafood, and fruit, have been associated with improved sexual function both in traditional medicine and scientific research.
With that said, if you have been under the sexual dry spell and you realise that your eating habits are indeed bad, reconsider your priorities and start changing your diet.
There are many herbs and grains that can get you back on track in no time even when you cut back on meats.
- Exercise regularly, but not too much
Did you know that healthy blood circulation has a lot to do with sexual arousal? This is because your erogenous zones need a good supply of blood to become receptive to sexual stimulation.
The CNN article titled ‘Why exercise is also good for your sexual health’ highlights the positive impact of aerobic exercise on circulation and sexual well-being. Aerobic exercise improves blood flow, maintaining a healthy circulatory system and supporting arousal. In men, it aids in achieving erections, while in women, it enhances vaginal lubrication and clitoral sensation. Overall, engaging in aerobic exercise can significantly benefit sexual health.
With that said, there is an easy way you can maintain good blood circulation. If you are a generally healthy person, just a regular set of physical exercises on a daily basis should do you just fine.
The body generally needs plenty of movement and stretching on a daily basis, so you can do this every day without overdoing much.
For instance, 3-5 minutes of stretching in the morning is already a good start to your day.
Then, if you can add 20 minutes of walking it would be even better.
Just make sure that your body moves enough throughout the day and you don’t even have to pay for a gym membership to stay feeling fit and ready for sex.
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- Take a walk outside and enjoy nature
A sexual dry spell could very well be the result of mental fog, did you know that? Many sexual problems do root in the physical, but experts have suggested that many mental problems also play a contributing role to a sexual dry spell.
In our world today, there is a growing concern over people’s mental health due to the stressors of daily living.
Many people suffer from mental confusion, anxiety, and burnout as a result of pushing themselves too hard at work. These conditions combined can lead to a sexual dry spell.
If you experience any of this and want to improve your condition, try to take a walk outside and enjoy nature.
This should be good to unravel the mental rut in your mind and help your physical body to relax. Try walking barefoot on soil or sand if you get the chance.
- Try to take the lead and be in charge
Perhaps the reason you are experiencing a sexual dry spell is that you are bored and lethargic.
Feeling boredom could well lead to a sexual dry spell because human beings need excitement to be able to enjoy sex.
If up until now you have been feeling a lack of inspiration, and if you feel you have had no say in sex, it could signify that it is time for you to try to learn to take charge in the relationship.
Learning to be in charge could inspire your spirit and eventually re-develop that sense of excitement that is necessary to up your libido.
Of course, your partner needs to play a good supporting role for your success in overcoming this sexual dry spell. So, if you are not usually in charge and you want to try this more active role, you should communicate this with your partner clearly.
