Everyone wants to have a long and fantastic experience in bed, before and after the sex. The question is, is there anything that a person can do to last long? Well, there are five best positions that you can try.
- Woman on top
If you have got super-duper sensitive skin on your penis that makes you ejaculate way too easily, you need to give some control back to the ladies.
Let your partner take the reign and grind you the way she likes it; that way she also has a better chance for reaching orgasm (which you probably already know is quite difficult to achieve through penile penetration alone).
The great thing about having the woman on top of your pelvis is that she gets easily stimulated on her clitoris by grinding it against your pelvis, meanwhile, you yourself don’t easily get overstimulated by the usual thrusting in and out that you will have to do with many other positions.
Ultimately, this position will give you more chances to breathe deeply and control your ejaculation.
Even if you’ve ejaculated a little too early, she can still please herself with the base of your penis, which is the last part to go limb after an ejaculation.
- Spooning
Spooning is another great way to delay ejaculation which many men with premature ejaculation issues need to do more. Firstly, it is super effective in delaying premature ejaculation.
According to Prime Men’s Medical Center, assuming a spooning position during sexual activity can help prolong the duration in bed. The article suggests that due to the positioning, which makes it more challenging to penetrate quickly, individuals are compelled to maneuver their penis with care, diverting attention from the urge to reach climax too soon. This approach may contribute to lasting longer during sexual encounters.
Secondly, it is ultra-romantic.
If you are lacking in performance, you surely want to balance that with top-notch sensuality (this can bring more intimacy which eventually may affect your mentality more and resolve your premature ejaculation partially).
With this sex position, first, you start off with the usual spooning her from her behind.
Start off withholding and caressing her and fondling her breasts, then when it is time for penetration, you can do it ever so carefully and slowly.
This position is great for delaying ejaculation because you certainly can’t go fast with the thrusting, lest your penis slips out of the vagina.
Better concentration and slower movement can have a greater impact on delaying your peak excitement and so you can better control your timing.
- Standing up
Sex while standing up is challenging. Yes, and that is exactly the point of doing this sex position. The more challenging a pose is, the more concentration is needed to maintain the pose.
That way, you can divert your attention from solely penetrating back and forth which has a tendency of getting your sensitive penis way too amped up and significantly delay ejaculation for a few minutes longer.
Keep in mind that you, at any rate, should do a pose that you know will be safe for both your partner and you.
You know with standing up sex, there can be a risk of falling or slipping, and we certainly do not want anyone to get injured during this process that should be fun.
If you are new to the whole standing up sex thing, try to have your partner lean against a wall for better support.
That way, you have more solid support that will diminish any risk for unwelcome injury.
- Doggy-style, but much lower
The traditional doggy style is probably one of the greatest sex positions for a lot of guys, but certainly not for a lot of guys who suffer from premature ejaculation.
What makes the doggy style so amazing is that the guy who does this gets full access to the vagina uninterrupted and they can easily climax this way.
For that very same reason, this is definitely the worst position to try if you frequently experience premature ejaculation.
BUT, not all hope is lost, because there is a slight variation to this position that can have the absolute complete opposite effect.
You can perform penetration from the back, but your partner will need to crouch so down low that her body practically almost touches the bed’s surface.
In this position, your penis will easily slip if you are being too aggressive.
That’s why you need to go slow and this has the great benefit of delaying ejaculation.
- Missionary
You don’t think the vanilla missionary can help you delay ejaculation? Well, if you do it right, you can indeed.
The key to having sex in the missionary position is to position your own body a little higher than usual.
There are a couple of really good things that can come out of this. First, the stimulation to your penis does not get too intense, which can then delay ejaculation.
Plus, in such a higher position, you will need to move rather slowly so your penis does not slip away easily.
The second good thing is that your pelvis will more easily come into contact with her clitoris, which will enhance the chances of you making her orgasm.
As stated by euroClinix, one notable benefit of the missionary position is the ability to control the movement. When sensing the approach of climax, one can slow down the tempo accordingly. Conversely, when feeling a surge of stamina, the tempo can be increased. Additionally, this position is widely accessible to individuals of all fitness levels and levels of experience.
If you want to switch up positions from the missionary, make sure you do it without a rush, otherwise, you risk losing your rhythm and your penis can get excited easily that you may just ejaculate during the transition’s period.
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- Sitting up
This particular position is so simple, but it can still be good, but most of all, it helps a man to last longer.
When you are sitting down, there is not much pressure to perform and your mind can be more at ease.
You allow the partner to take better control of what she wants to do and you just enjoy sitting there, getting serviced.
Prime Men’s Medical Center asserts that in comparison to other sex position, this particular position entails shallow penetration. It offers an appealing visual aspect without requiring rapid and forceful thrusts. Consequently, men can prolong their endurance during intimate encounters, resulting in a heightened and gratifying experience with their female partners.
To exercise this position, it is better to position yourself sitting up comfortably, either on a couch or on the edge of the bed.
Your partner can either give you a blowjob during this time, or she can sit atop your penis and do something similar to a cowgirl.
Or, she can also be facing you whilst holding on to your neck and shoulders for support.
When in this position, although you can be relaxed, don’t forget to also support your partner’s weight by holding on to her when needed.
- Basically, anything you are unfamiliar with
Lastly, any sex position that you are not familiar with can help you improve the timing of your ejaculation.
This is because new sex positions that you are unfamiliar with tend to require a lot more concentration in order for you to pull them off correctly.
As such, your mind tends to be a little bit busier and that can drive your attention away from the act of sex.
This can diminish your sensitivity towards whatever is happening and this can help you reach climax longer.
Any positions that are considered for ‘advanced learners’ can be considered for this purpose.
Of course, no matter how difficult the sex position you are trying, make sure you do everything safely and consider the environmental situations as well.
We are not about getting you injured or anything horrible like that, not even getting you embarrassed in front of other people.
- Yab-yum sex position
Yab-yum is one of the most famous tantric sex positions. The Yab-yum sex position is actually originally meant to be a meditative position. In fact, a lot about tantric sex is not even about sex. Surprising, right?
But with the Yab-yum tantric sex position, you can gradually learn how to improve your duration of sex.
The Yab-yum tantric sex position will have you sitting with your legs crossed, and then your partner sits in the same position on top of your crossed legs. As such, with this position, you may find it difficult to penetrate deeply.
But this is a good thing if you want to lower stimulation and enjoy the act for a longer period of time.
The Yab-yum tantric sex position will allow you to catch your breath whenever you need to slow down and reduce sensations on your penis. This position is also highly sensual with your partner.
- Reverse cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl is a position that allows a woman to take control of the rhythm of the moment. Whenever a man is in a position of little to no control, he will find it harder to finish quickly.
So, if you struggle with premature ejaculation, the reverse cowgirl position can be your trusty ally. With this position, you are lying down on your back and your partner rides you whilst facing the other direction.
You will still be plenty aroused by seeing her butt without any obstruction. From this position, you can also comfortably stimulate her breasts. Women are more likely to achieve an orgasm from this position, too.
So, this position is definitely a win-win for those of you looking to improve your sex whilst dealing with premature ejaculation.
With the girl being in control in this position, you can easily control your breathing and urge to ejaculate sooner than expected.
- Use the pause and squeeze technique
Whenever a man feels like he is about to ejaculate, but he doesn’t want to just yet, he can try the pause and squeeze technique.
The pause and squeeze technique is a method that will allow you to last much longer in bed if you have mastered it.
Basically, as the name itself suggests, when you feel like you are about to climax, which you know you shouldn’t just yet, just pause whatever you are doing, and then squeeze the tip of your penis with your fingers.
This would allow some downtime for you and reduce sensations from your penis. During this downtime, try to breathe in deeply as best you can to return senses to your body and calm your nervous system down.
You basically just need a few seconds to do this, and if your premature ejaculation is quite severe you may need to repeat it a few times.
