Pre-ejaculation is very common in men. Pre-ejaculation took place when a person ejaculated his sperms early, making sex less pleasurable. We listed five reasons why men ejaculate fast, so take notes.
- Sexual Abuse As A Child
Often terrible sexual experiences, especially being abused as a child, create a sense of trauma for a lifetime.
While it is often thought that women are at the receiving end of all sexual abuse and rapes, child sexual abuse – irrespective of gender – is also sadly pretty common.
In fact, men are also raped though not everyone can come out and talk about it loudly.
But the word is already out. According to a new report published in the Economist Impact, more than 400 million children are exposed to sexual abuse and exploitation.
The report titled “Out of the Shadows Global Index 2022”, analyzes data from 60 countries accounting for 85% of the world’s children population.
Sexual exploitation here includes exposure to sexually explicit images and expletive language. The propagation of online content has made this situation worse.
Apart from creating a sense of loss, such traumas can affect the psychological well-being of a person to the extent of being unable to feel at ease even in consensual sexual encounters.
As a result, some of these men tend to suffer from various sexual dysfunctions like premature ejaculation and even erectile dysfunction.
The consequences arising from children’s sexual abuse are severe and long-term. The United National Human Rights body UNHCR has noted this trend and wants Government to take a more proactive stand in combating this vice.
During their first meeting to mark the World Day for the Prevention of and Healing from Child Sexual Exploitation, Abuse, and Violence which happened in New York, the Special Delegates on the Convention on the Rights of the Child declared this issue as a worldwide emergency.
If you have been a victim of sexual abuse, you can talk about it with your partner it might help you to cope with the trauma.
If you want to know about the proportion of children abuse sexually worldwide then here are the statistics.
Psychological issues caused by sex exploitation during your early years could cause a permanent or long-term negative view of sex. Thus even if you try to engage in consensual sex, the trauma prevents normal intercourse, resulting in early emission.
This is per the NHS publication titled, “Can Premature Ejaculation Be Controlled?”
And if you think you can’t talk to anyone, visiting a psychologist in such a scenario may be of immense help.
- Improper Body Image
Lack of confidence is one of the major vices in our lives. Not only does this vice attack our professional lives but our personal lives as well.
Poor body image or unhappiness emerging out of one’s own body often delves us into a zone of endless comparisons, which inadvertently pinpoint our flaws.
A study published in ResearchGate states that there is a relationship between body image and offline sexual activities. Here men with poor body image desist from engaging in offline sexual activities.
This is reported in “Sexting with benefits? Exploration of Sexting Behavior through the Lens of Protection Motivation Theory.”
The endless desire for perfection and masculinity becomes so harrowing that we cannot accept the flaws in us even in front of the mirrors, let alone in front of our partners, to whom we always have this tendency to showcase the best.
Although self-esteem issues are perceived to mostly affect women, men also suffer from this handicap. And it doesn’t affect only couples in heterosexual relationships.
A study titled, “The Relationship Between Body Image and Sexual Functioning Among Gay and Bisexual Men” espouses this matter deeply. It’s available in a 2018 PubMed Advance publication.
What many of us may not know is that this lack of body esteem often tends to hamper our sexual lives.
Having a negative body image creates a sense of anxiety during the sexual act, thus frequently causing premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction.
This situation is caused by societal expectation about perfect body size and structure. Still, there is high pressure to perform well and look great in bed.
This causes undue mental pressure which could lead to premature ejaculation according to the article “What causes premature ejaculation – and what can help?” on livi publication.
A great way to get rid of this would be to talk to a psychotherapist.
- Infection In the Prostate Or Urethra
Inflammation and infection in the prostate gland may also be the reason behind premature ejaculation.
The inflammation of the gland, also known as prostatitis, is often known as the underlining issue causing premature ejaculation in most men, especially people younger than 40 years.
In a study titled “Sexual Dysfunction in the Patient with Prostatitis,” the researchers set to establish a link between this chronic prostate inflammation and the incidence of premature ejaculation.
The report abstract on the July 2006 PunMed publication concludes that prostatitis-like symptoms cause discomfort during and after sex. It thus affects the emotional stability of the man, causing an uptick in erectile dysfunction.
It is also known that premature ejaculation is the sole symptom of prostatitis in the initial years.
So, it is always a good idea to get a thorough checkup done if you think premature ejaculation is troubling you successively for more than a month.
Similarly, inflammation of the urethra and urinary tract infections are also known to cause premature ejaculation in men.
Yet another clinical report published by the National Library of Medicine publication laid bare the extent of prostate infection in men experiencing premature ejaculation.
The report titled “Chronic Prostatitis In Premature Ejaculation: A Cohort Study In 153 Men” found that 64% of men exhibiting premature ejaculation had prostatic inflammation and 52% had chronic bacterial prostatitis.
However, in the case of UTIs, premature ejaculation is not the sole symptom – the inability to hold urine, pain behind the scrotum, and on rare occasions, bloody semen can also indicate Urinary Tract Infection.
A 2020 Journal of Medical Research paper titled “Prostatitis and premature ejaculation: two enemies of Masculinity” mentions that through bacterial prostatitis, the infestation of harmful bacteria on the urethra causes acute inflammation of the gland.
If there isn’t an immediate and robust immune response, the bacteria alters the seminal parameters, urethral catheterization and hence reduced sexual desire and premature ejaculation.
Hence, it is always fruitful to have a thorough discussion with your doctor before taking any over-the-counter medicines.
- Relationship Issues
Interpersonal issues can also be one of the most vital reasons causing both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
Now, it is to be noted here that relationship issues do not necessarily mean having problems in the current relationship.
When you are not in the best mood to face and talk freely with your partner, it’s hard for you to be sexually attracted to her. In this case, your sex experience would be great.
You may thus, experience premature ejaculation due to these unresolved issues affecting your relationship. According to an article published by the Mayo Clinic titled “Premature Ejaculation”.
Problematic and toxic previous relationships – full of body image issues and/or sexual abuse – may create problems even in your current relationship.
It’s the perfect relationship that causes you to engage in more frequent intimacy in a study titled “The Prevalence of Premature Ejaculation and its Relationship with polygamous men: across-sectional Observational Study at a Tertiary Hospital in Somalia.”
This report, published in a PMC Urology publication, concludes that men having sex more than twice a week had less incidence of ED and PE. You can only engage in this sexual frequency when your marital relationship is sound and healthy.
But unhealthy relationships and toxicity mostly come across as premature ejaculation.
The constant fear of not being able to give the best pleasure to your partner always lurks around causing both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
For people suffering from such conditions, it is always better to have a hearty talk with a partner.
Although marital relationship is hard to define in its sexual context due to hidden perceptions of thoughts and emotions, it affects sexual performance.
A PubMed Central publication titled “The Impact of ejaculation dysfunction upon the Sufferer and his partner” mentions that psychological conflicts could result in unconscious and deep-rooted hatred of women, causing premature ejaculation.
This will help in mitigating differences (if any) and help the person feel better and more comfortable during the sexual act.
Alternatively, booking an appointment with a psychotherapist may also come in as a great aid – especially if you cannot open up to your partner.
- Tension And Stress
Modern-day woes in the form of stress and tension often tend to create an adverse effect on your sexual life.
A report titled “How Stress Causes Premature Ejaculation” outlines the effect stress causes on the body and mind. It goes into detail about how these anxieties contribute to premature male ejaculation.
Of great significance are the consequential effects of PE on marital relationships and intimacy. Still, the report on Lybrate publication, stresses that tension could contribute to improper hormonal balance, which further aggravates sexual performance and experience.
No matter whether the stress, apprehension, and tension come from your professional life or personal, these might have a lasting impact on your conjugal life in the form of lower libido, premature ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction.
Most males suffering from premature ejaculation symptoms feel stressed as they worry about their impeding sexual performance. Subsequently, they are unable to rise to the occasion, which brings shame and guilt.
A paper titled “Premature Ejaculation” appearing in Cleveland Clinic publication, outlines stress as a psychological factor causing premature ejaculation in men.
Being a lifestyle issue, the good news is that you can control your tension and stress without having to undergo any medication or therapy.
Small lifestyle changes like eating better, sleeping on time for complete six to eight hours, exercising regularly, and doing breathing exercises or yoga can help in combating stress and tension to a great extent.
Many people have been able to tackle premature ejaculation by making such lifestyle changes.
Also, switching off from work at the right time and keeping some time daily for family works great in easing your tension and keeping stress at bay.
A Mayo Clinic publication titled “Premature ejaculation” stresses that stress and emotional strain in some life areas could trigger premature ejaculation.
Anxiety prevents you from relaxing and enjoying the moment, thus you avoid focusing on sexual activity. Still, the calming enzymes your body releases to overcome stress narrow the blood stream, limiting blood flow to the genitals.
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- Lack of strength in the lower body parts
Men who tend to have very weak lower body parts may find it quite hard to control the timing of their ejaculation.
This is because the muscles that control the in and out of the liquid are not strong enough to hold the ejaculate when you still want to continue thrusting.
Typically, men who sit all day long, maybe because of work, and never go out to even stretch their limbs, let alone exercise, may suffer from this.
A Mayo Clinic publication on Premature Ejaculation, states that robust pelvis floor muscles are instrumental in supporting the bladder, bowel, and sexual functions. Sexual functions here include arousal, erection, and ejaculation.
Hence, the weaker these muscles are, the higher the probability of not garnering a rigid enough erection as well as delaying ejaculation.
Well, then the solution for this kind of premature ejaculation is to start getting busy.
The Kegels exercises are effective in reducing incidences of premature ejaculation. A study titled “Pelvic floor muscle rehabilitation for patients with lifelong premature ejaculation: a novel therapeutic approach”, confirms this treatment efficacy.
The publication, appearing in a PubMed Central June 2014 edition, concludes that 82% of the 40 men with less intravaginal ejaculatory latency time were able to stretch this duration from an average of 40 seconds to 112 seconds after six months of Kegels exercises.
Although it may not solve the problem right away, maintaining physical fitness daily, even if just a little, can make a significant difference in the long run.
A Men’s Health publication provides ways to prevent premature ejaculation through lower body workouts. It lists five exercises that improves your pelvic floor.
They include squat jumps, kettlebell swings, and barbell hip thrusts. Others are deadlift and bridge, as per an article titled “Avoid Premature Ejaculation with This 5-move Workout”.
If you are the kind of man that has a job that demands you sit all day, try to tackle the bad effects by performing squats.
- You recently hit your bum
If you have just recently hit your below and are now facing some mild symptoms of premature ejaculation, wow, this may be the reason why.
You never could tell in what ways you have hurt yourself when your bum hits something hard, and it may just be that your erectile performance is affected by some internal injury.
Any form of injuries affecting your pelvic, urethra or penis could cause complications such as premature ejaculation.
A clinic research paper published in PubMed Central called “Sexual Function following Pelvic Fracture Urethral Injury and Posterior Urethroplasty” espouses this relationship.
About 43% of men who underwent PFUI treatment after urethra injury reported difficulties delaying ejaculation, while their penises deformed in both length and curvature.
In this kind of case, you would be wise to get yourself checked by a doctor immediately.
Another study suggests that PFUI affects the cavernous nerves and arteries to the pelvic bones and urethra. Thus they are likely to malfunction at the time of the injuries.
“Erectile Dysfunction Following Pelvic Fracture Urethral Injury” appearing in Sexual Medicine Reviews of ISSM publication confirms that PFUI causes ED even after treatment is complete, in about half of the male patients.
A healthcare professional will be able to check for sure whether or not you have some problems with your physical body that has caused the issues with premature ejaculation.
Poor posture, elongated seating duration, and accidents could cause the pelvis floor injuries or weaknesses.
Proper diagnosis of pelvis injuries ensures effective treatment. Thus ensure that you undergo a thorough pelvis floor examination to treat these weaknesses.
A Sydney Pelvis Clinic online pamphlet titled “Premature Ejaculation” stresses the need to examine and evaluate your pelvis routinely.
And if there seems to be nothing there that affects your premature ejaculation, well, at least you can breathe freely.
Then, you can ask the doctor if there is another way you can get help for your PE issues.
