Men’s penis size has always been one of the most intriguing issues for a man, and a point of insecurity. It’s something that’s been debated in locker rooms, chat rooms, even research papers for decades. But women’s opinions are almost entirely absent from these debates. What do they actually desire in terms of the size of their penis? We risked asking and asking different women and the answers might surprise you.
Historical Context
It’s not that there is something new about the obsession with penis size and how it plays a role in sex. Historically, different cultures have had different myths about the size and meaning of the penis. For some societies, a larger penis symbolized masculinity and authority, while for others, fertility and virility. The ancient Greeks, for instance, regarded a small penis as a mark of wisdom and virtuousness, and a large penis as barbaric and uncivilised.
In the Middle Ages, the circumference of a man’s penis would often be associated with his social class and reputation. Knights and lords were supposed to have large genitals because it represented strength and lordship. Instead, peasants and commoners were regularly ridiculed for small penises – a sign of inferiority.
As penis size was no longer considered an essential parameter in the Victorian age, modesty and discretion were elevated. Their fetish for colossal genitals started to fall off the radar and they began to focus on other things: intelligence, character. Yet the myth of larger still persisted across cultures, with the fascination with penis size continuing into the 21st century.
But first and foremost, we need to understand that women are not homogeneous. Men may not like or share the same preferences and thoughts about different physical qualities of women, so they might not like or care for a certain size of penis. The answer to this is far from universal. That said, there were some recurring themes from our conversations with women.
Perhaps the most critical point that sprang from the findings was that size is not the ultimate all-or-nothing for women. Even though it might be socially preferred for men to possess a big, fat penis, women have none because it isn’t what determines their sexual pleasure. Indeed, most women said they’d choose a partner who was attentive, communicative and bed-ready no matter how large their penis was.
For me, all that matters is my boyfriend’s self-confidence and his ability to get on with what he got,’ one woman said. Others who shared this view said that sex should be about chemistry and intimacy, not volume.
A second factor came into play: proportions and suitability. Others preferred a partner whose penis was in line with her body size. ‘I don’t want to feel like I’m being torn in two,’ one woman said. You’re just picking the right one. This speaks to the importance of clear communication and understanding among partners, since what is ‘small’ or ‘average’ for one may be perfectly fine for another.
Other than size, women often also valued girth and softness. ‘It’s not size,’ one woman told me, ‘but thickness definitely makes a difference. This suggests that for some women, it’s not length at all, but the sense of equanimity and stimulation that girth confers.
Additionally, a bigger penis is intimidating or unnatural to some women. As one woman put it: ‘I was with a guy who had an extremely large penis and I just couldn’t take it. It really made sex painful for me. It speaks to the necessity of open communication and consent during sex, and to the reality that it doesn’t always pay to be big.
Curiously enough, most of the women we interviewed also said that what they liked to see was not the size of a penis, but the shape of it. Symmetry and beauty mattered to some, while hygiene and cleanliness mattered to others. ‘I don’t care about size as much as I care about hygiene,’ one woman explained. If a guy can’t take care of himself down there, that’s a huge deterrent.
Our women’s interviews overall suggested that penis size was an interesting, if debated, dimension, but not the ultimate measure of female sexual satisfaction. Indeed, for a great many women, a man’s confidence, communication and general sexual suitability was more significant than his size.
Future Developments
The debate around penis size and female preferences will probably continue to diverge in the future. The more research conducted on this subject, the more we’ll know about women’s preferences and views on penis size. This could dispel more myths and misconceptions, and allow men to have a more complete and balanced understanding of the impact of size on sexual fulfilment.
Moreover, as body image and self-esteem topics become more visible, men may feel more encouraged to love their bodies and take themselves at face value, regardless of their size. It makes for healthier and happier sexual interactions, since men can focus on cultivating other attributes essential for intimacy and connection.
Conclusion:
Let’s end there, so, what should women want for their penis size? No clear answer. Every woman is different, and she will have her own likes and dislikes. It’s clear, though, that there is no unified response to what a woman wants in terms of penis size. It’s nuanced, it’s personal, and it’s different for every woman. All that’s clear is that it’s not all about the size. Instead, a partner must be open, open-minded, able to build that emotional and physiological connection.
