Why You Should Masturbate Before a First Date

The dating experience can be exciting and frightening. When you’re gearing up for an evening out with a potential romantic partner, so many details pop into your head: what to wear, what to talk about, where to eat. With all this hype, it might sound counterintuitive to tell you that the secret of your success is a highly private, intimate act: masturbation. Not a typical dating tip, but taking a few moments to explore yourself before your date is going down can pay off in unexpected ways. Here’s why you might want to take it into account before you get out the door.

1. Reduced Anxiety

A certain amount of pressure comes with a first date. The need to look good can often create anxiety. This anxiety is perfectly normal, but it can also prevent you from unwinding and enjoying yourself. Masturbation can be used to relieve stress because it’s a powerful way to get some endorphins, the feel-good chemicals that make you relaxed and happy.

As masturbation eases anxiety, you free yourself up to calm your nervous system and walk in to your date with a clear head. Relaxed ambiance not only puts you at ease but also allows you to easily get to know your partner. You’ll be less nervous and so will make more meaningful connections, coming across more authentically as you truly are.

2. Increased Confidence

Good self-esteem is a crucial aspect of a dating relationship, and masturbation can help boost body positivity and self-acceptance. You build empowerment by getting to know your own body. That self-awareness and self-worth results in more confidence, and a greater willingness to engage fully with someone new.

Assured people also exude magnetic energy, based on body posture, voice and appearance. That confidence can be incredibly enticing, and this impresses your date. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you might actually make your date feel a bit better, and so the two of you can come together more authentically.

3. Clearer Focus on the Date

First-date jitters aren’t uncommon, and they often equate to over-emphasis on physical chemistry and potential romantic attraction. As fun as it is to get excited about all of this, being focused on it can also distract you from the point of the date: getting to know each other. Masturbation will help distract you from all the excess sexual energy, leaving you firmly grounded in the present.

If you let some of that pressure out in advance, you’re more likely to stay in the conversation and relationship mindset and avoid being distracted by the idea of attraction or sexual tension. This clearheadedness allows for an authentic encounter, where both partners can get to know each other and form a real relationship.

4. Increasing Your Pleasure Awareness

Perhaps the most fulfilling part of interacting with another human being is to first become acquainted with your own body. Masturbation lets you do what feels right. On dates, you’ll really appreciate this. If you know yourself and your preferences, then you’ll be a much more vulnerable lover-both to yourself and to your date.

That will ultimately make for a more appropriate forum to talk about intimacy and have both parties extremely at ease around each other. Together, you create the foundations of trust and integrity by sharing your own personal preferences and interests, which will create better chemistry. It can be a friendly openness and liberation, teasing banter to make sure that you are both having a good time.

5. Emotional Balance

It is not just a bodily release, it’s about you connecting with yourself. Masturbation allows this to get out of the body, away from the emotional baggage and anxieties, and that will be enough to calm any nerves one might have about the new date. So whatever baggage has been brought along by the past or even simply expectation, carving out time to pamper yourself will help release some of that baggage.

Being emotionally prepared on a first date lets you be there, enjoy the experience, and be ready for a new relationship to occur. Alternatively, this emotional equilibrium will enable you to look as natural as possible to your partner, itself a motivation for sharing who you truly are whenever there is nothing unresolved that gets in the way. You will also be emotionally mature and therefore more likely to resonate with your date.

6. Physical Relaxation

On the physiological level, the hormonal advantages of masturbation extend beyond mood control. The physiological reaction at climax, which manifests itself as releasing oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins, relates to physical relaxation. A combination of such positive chemicals helps you to feel better by relieving tension in your muscles and allowing you to relax.

Going to your date on a calm physiological note can make the whole experience so much better. The mind won’t be talking back and forth to you, but you can listen to your partner, laugh, and eat your dinner because you’re not doing it. Often enough, this is the key to a relaxing, nice night with real emotion.

Conclusion: Why You Should Masturbate Before a First Date

Though it may seem counterintuitive to masturbate before a first date, there are some psychological and physiological advantages of doing so that can lead to a better date. From reducing anxiety and improving confidence to raising pleasure consciousness and cultivating emotional equanimity, taking time to reflect can transform your dating life. So before you go on that much-anticipated first date, why not take a step back for yourself and perhaps just make a connection that sparks something wonderful.